INTERVIEWER: So Meera what do you think of Gethin?
MEERA: I quite fancy him actually. He’s lovely.
GETHIN: I wondered if Meera liked me. I thought, shall I tell her I’m gay? But if she doesn’t fancy me then she’ll think I’m really arrogant.
INTERVIEWER: What do you think about Meg?
GETHIN: Meg said she grew up in Reading, so I automatically presumed she was English before she moved to Ruthin, so I didn’t think she was Welsh.
MEG: Just because I moved here when I was eight doesn’t mean I don’t feel Welsh. Mum’s family have lived in Ruthin for three generations and I was brought up speaking Welsh. I think of myself as Welsh. I tried to talk to Jac but he seems like really shy.
JAC: Why should I tell people I’m a carer? People think I’m unfriendly because I never hang round after school. I don’t want them to know I have to get back to look after Mum. I really like Meera. She’s really interesting because her family is from India.
MEERA: Everyone calls me Indian and that’s so annoying because I feel very Welsh. I can understand why Jac said that. But that’s not who I am. I think maybe Gethin isn’t interested because he only likes girls who are into gaming. And I worry he thinks I’m hard.
INTERVIEWER: Why’s that?
MEERA: Some people think all rugby players are really hard. And I suppose I can be a bit tough, but that’s only on the pitch when I’m being tactical. But off the pitch with my friends and family I’m a really sensitive person.
GETHIN: I just hope Meera doesn’t think I don’t like her, because I think she’s lovely and a good laugh.
MEG: I really like Meera because she seems confident and she really listens to what you say.
JAC: Meg’s really interesting, like all the things she says she wants to do in the future about sustainable food production and diversifying her gran’s farm by creating a farm shop and café there. But it makes me a bit anxious - she’s sorted that she’s going to go into farming. It makes me think I’m not very certain about my identity.
INTERVIEWER: Not everyone knows their identity, and lots of people change their mind along the way.
MEG: I think working out your identity is important, because asking people who they are and finding out that you have things in common, well, it’s like starting to put roots down in any relationship. If you can build an element of trust then a friendship can often grow from that. Like when I heard about Jac and how he’s a carer, I realised I’d completely misjudged him. As soon as he told me that I understood him and I had so much respect for him. It’s like I can see a different person now. It’s nothing he should be ashamed of, or keep to himself.
JAC: I go to a young carers group, where I’ve got some mates I can trust. Having things in common can be the beginning of that trust and .
MEERA: I can’t believe I got Gethin’s identity so wrong. But I guess we all do that every day.
INTERVIEWER: How could we avoid that?
GETHIN: I’m not a bad listener, but you can always take a bit longer to listen. Stop making quick judgements. Give people the space to say who they are.
MEERA: People always surprise you. Always. And that’s exciting and part of getting to know someone. I made the false assumption that Gethin’s straight. Now we can have a laugh about it. I still think he’s gorgeous though.
The scripted characters in this series, Meg, Gethin, Jac and Meera, are based on interviews conducted with real Welsh teenagers. In this film, they talk about their first impressions of each other and are challenged on their initial perceptions, while reflecting on how they may be perceived themselves.
Teacher notes
Progression Step 4
Four Welsh teenagers – Gethin, Jac, Meera and Meg – are interviewed on their first impressions of one another. They all have initial pre-conceived ideas of each other, and reflect on how they may be perceived themselves. They are all guilty of making false assumptions of one another, and readily it this. Meera its she has a crush on Gethin and presumes he’s straight, Gethin presumed Meg identified as English because she grew up in Reading. Meg thinks Jac is really shy because he doesn’t talk much about his personal life, and Jac says he finds Meera really interesting because he thinks she is from India. The teenagers reflect on how false assumptions make them feel, and recognise how they made false assumptions themselves. They all notice how their own personal experiences form the identities they place onto each other, and recognise the importance of getting to know one another in order to understand the complexities of each person’s identity.
Curriculum notes
- Students could be shown several images of individuals and asked to describe the type of person they think they are, including hobbies, nationality etc. These could then be shared and compared and differences identified. The teacher would then have a real description of each person in the pictures and share them with the class. The pupil could compare their own ideas about the individuals with the real life descriptions, picking up on any stereotypes etc.
- Students could be asked how they can tackle stereotypes and false assumptions.
- Students can list three false assumptions that are often made about them, and how these assumptions make them feel.
- Students can work together to create ‘layers’ for an individual: what people see on the outside, what you see when you get to know someone a bit better, and what is someone's true identity 'inside'.
- Students could write a short script or conversation between two people showing how to talk and listen sensitively in order to find out more about someone’s identity.

More from this series:
Who am I? video
Four Welsh teenagers introduce themselves and key parts of their personal identity.

Changing identities. video
Four Welsh teenagers explore changing identities and perspectives.

Historical revolutions video
Four teenagers look at historical revolutions in a Welsh and global context.
