“I think it has a lot to do with just wanting to be accepted, wanting to do the right thing, ” said Pete.
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Life coach Pete Cohen
“But we often do the right thing by other people rather than ourselves.
“By the time Christmas comes most people are exhausted.”
A solution is to learn to say no without feeling guilty.
“So many of us put everyone else first because we want to fit in, we are tribal people,” according to Pete.
“But I would say to people if you really feel in your heart of hearts that there’s something that you don’t want to do, just say no.
“It feels uncomfortable to say no but the relief you’ll probably get from having said it [...] you’ll probably feel better for having done it.”
